Monday, January 5, 2009

Pre-birthday (Part 2 of 2): To Sex Or Not To Sex?

As I've said before, I get excited about birthdays...last night was definitely the "pre-game". So my company arrived after a few conversations and text messages later... he walks in and we hug. He gives me one of those BIG, I missed you hugs.

Mystery Man: Hey sweetie, you look great

Me: Thank you, you caught me in my PJ's ( I actually don't really own PJ's)

Mystery Man: Those are your PJ's???? Wow. I like them. I can tell you were sun-kissed as well...

Me: (smiling) Thank you, I laid by the beach almost everyday.


We sit on the couch and chat for a minute, then I suggest watching one of my favorite movies.

Side-bar
We women know whether or not we are going to have sex as soon as we hang up the phone. Or the thought of having sex at least crosses our mind. So we take care to perform the "pre-company" rituals - you know, showering, shaving, waxing, whatever we need to do to get "ready"...so as I'm running around my house like a mad woman, trying to straighten things, shower, and do the "pregame" ritual, the thought of SEX did cross my mind. I didn't make my mind up, but I got excited at the thought of possibly "getting laid"; I also became conflicted and thought about the other "players" (mainly one) in the Line Up.



As he sets up the DVD player I make us drinks. A few minutes later I'm laying on him and we are about 30 minutes into the movie, he starts caressing me. At first he's rubbing my back, and I'm thinking to myself how long will it take for his hands to roam south.... a few minutes later, like clockwork, his hands go a little further down...right at the small of my back. I turn over and look at him, and laugh...

Me: You're funny

Him: What???

He kisses the inside of my arm, then his lips find mine and we passionately kiss for a few minutes. I turn back towards the movie...at this point I'm horny... and my GOOD Diva and BAD Diva are fighting...on one hand I haven't had sex since October and I really want some...on the other hand, we just started back talking and I didn't want to jump back into sex, and while I was away I was thinking I might give celibacy a shot...

A love scene comes on...I turn my face towards him. He stares at me, he kisses the inside of my arm again...we go back and forth for awhile, tugging at clothes and pants, grabbing, kissing...I stop him. At this point I was still kind of undecided, so I decided to test him...

Me: Do you have protection?

Him: No, I didn't come over here for that.

Me: Hmmmm

So I don't tell him right away that I have protection. In my mind, I'm still weighing the pros and cons and ...then he starts kissing me again, this time on the inside of my legs.... the bad Diva won...

12 comments:

Tunde said...

pre-game ritual. hmmmm. never really thought about what women do before we come over. lol. good to know. good know the bad diva won. lol.

must love movies said...

lol
you just reminded me that i need to pack love jones. wow you seem to be having fun.

DC DIVA DATING ADVENTURES said...

Tunde - yes, those are a few secrets we never share, so when we say 30 minnutes to an hour... that's what we're doing

MLM - you movin? I love Love Jones...guess it got the juices flowing...mental note to self - "that movie is a panty dropper"

Chaotically Calm said...

Sometimes the bad Diva in us all has to do what she has to do! Happy Birthday!

My True Essence said...

Has Mr. Henry arisen from the dead? Diva has got her groove back!!! I ain't mad at ya! LOL!!

DC DIVA DATING ADVENTURES said...

LOL, yeah, my Bad Diva tends to win more than my good one???

Mr. Henry...funny, Shawn & Blackfemmefatale said Tony...... some secrets are great when they are shared...guess I'll have to divulge later ;)

Cheekie said...

"Mr Henry" definitely popped into my head when you first told us of this Mystery Man so that's my guess.

And, yes, Love Jones is THEE panty dropper.

DC DIVA DATING ADVENTURES said...

Just so you guys won't think too much about Mr. H, it wasn't him :) He's got a lot more BEGGING, APOLOGIZING and making up to do before he gets ANYWHERE near my panties....

Cheekie said...

DC Diva: Oh, good! Sigh of relief. Go girl! Even though that was my guess, I still was a bit worried it was right.

Ok, then Imma go with Tony, too.

Shawn Smith said...

Love Jones is one of my favorite movies too. Joker and I were talking about all of those black love movies:
Love Jones
Love and Basketball
Have Plenty
Brown Sugar
Breaking all the Rules

Reign said...

So glad to hear it's not Mr Henry!!!

My pre-game has been off... does that mean anything when your guy is coming over and you don't get everything right??? too comfortable huh, lol

DC DIVA DATING ADVENTURES said...

Hmmm, never see some of those Shawn, I'll have to look up Have Plenty & Breaking All the Rules

Reign, you gotta keep it interesting :)

Off to my b-day dinner, updates tomorrow :)