Monday, January 26, 2009

All Action, No Talk

This weekend, the Old Man and I hung out. It’s becoming a ritual. Friday night we went to the movies, and afterwards chatted over hot coco and a late night dinner. He brought up the fact that we needed to talk again, but it wasn’t the time or place. Sunday night he came over and I ordered Thai food, then we went to a concert. He’s definitely exposing me to new things. His taste in music is just as eclectic as mine, I’m learning a thing or two from him. I guess an Old Dog can teach you new tricks!!! (I know, it’s backwards)

I’ve been thinking about our “relationship” a lot lately, and I know what my problem is. I want the relationship without the emotional connection/attachment, without sex, and without the bf/gf title. I like the companionship, but I also like having the FREEDOM of doing whatever I want, whether it’s gallivanting to Jamaica for hot, sexy times, or going to the club and flirting with guys all night. I know it’s selfish, and probably self-indulgent, but I don’t want to be LOCKED DOWN or BALL & CHAINED, and more and more, I’m finding things about the Old Man that are annoying (singing off key to name one). From the beginning, I told him I DID NOT want a relationship, but given the amount of time we spend together, I can see how it could become one.

I still haven’t told him about my trip in February, during VALENTINE’S DAY weekend with Brian!!! I’ve been hinting towards it, but I don’t want him to get the wrong idea about me and Brian. Although I think Brian is hot and sexy, and there was a time when I wanted to rip his clothes off, and ....ooops, anyways, I don’t look at Brian that way anymore. I know way too much about his little trysts with his portfolio of various women, and I can’t see myself jumping his bones anytime soon...I digress. I want to be honest with the Old Man about my trip, but I don’t think he’d understand...

7 comments:

must love movies said...

yeah i would keep that to myself.

Anonymous said...

To paraphrase a Seinfeld episode, you've got "hand" in this "relationship." It sounds like you could total this guy's car and he wouldn't be mad at you for more than a week. Just tell him you are going away for Valentine's Day weekend. You could throw him a bone and offer an opportunity for him to take you to an early Valentine's day dinner, but not necessary, given that you've got hand. At this point he is well aware he's not getting any, probably just hoping for some type of miracle.

Mz Mami said...

oh i feel u. i don't want to be ball and chained either. i like relationship aspects not necessarily the whoooole combo.. i just like knowing i have my freedom and "no u don't own me ok!" lol and hey if he doesn't ask, u don't have to tell. although old man seems like the type where he might be "wounded " a little bit..his ego (like all guys) but w/e. you're not like his official lady ..no matter how much he spoils you..lol

My True Essence said...

Hey Diva. Tell him you are going with friends. Since you guys are not in a "relationship", you don't have to explain everything to him. I would not tell him though just to keep down the drama.

DC DIVA DATING ADVENTURES said...

hmmm, this will be interesting...tonight he asked me why am I with him. He asked me Friday too, but somehow I avoided the question. Tonight he reminded me I still didn't answer his question. I still haven't answered. I have to mull this one over a bit...

must love movies said...

i'm sorry i have to say this. a part of me feels you are leading these men on like they do us women. i know that you aren't intentionally out to hurt them but i feel it could happen. just putting that out there. can't tell myself i didn't say it. lol

i dig your style no doubt.

DC DIVA DATING ADVENTURES said...

@MLM -hmmmmm, I have to mull that one over for a minute...Am I A Tease????? Hmmmmmm, I'll get back to ya on that one