Wednesday, September 3, 2008

Quantity Not Quality

I've been thinking a lot about this lately, quantity not quality is what I'm experiencing right now on the dating scene. I've been meeting a lot of guys lately, but no one who has the WOW factor. No one who makes my toes curl. No one that I smile about every time I think about them. I don't think it's where or how I meet them. As I've said before, I meet guys out, in social groups, at the gym, on the street, at the grocery store, I even met a few online.

So what happened to the quality guy? Did they get lazy and morph into couch potatoes who text and play video games all day? Have they retreated to their caves in favor of the the internet instead of actual face to face conversation and social interaction? Are they extinct? I mean, let's run down the list of what I'm working with right now:

Benjamin - Too Old. I know some people may find this offensive, but I seriously do not want to date anyone older than my parents, whom could potentially be my Grandpa!

Brian - Friend. I like him, but I really don't know what he wants, if he likes me and as of yet, I haven't told him I like him. We are going on a trip together at the end of the month to, well what happens in Miami, stays in Miami!!! (Ok, so he could be a potential ltr guy, I'll put him in the box for now.)

Chris - We met a few weeks ago, had a great night, tried to get together again, but I cancelled dinner with him one night. I think he took offense to that and hasn't called me since. He wasn't really my type anyways, not that I have a "type", but if I did, he wouldn't be it.

Latino Papi Alex - All he does is text message me. I hate that. He wants to know when can he see me, can he come over, "wats up" (his text, not mine). Maybe if he picked the phone up once in awhile, I'd take him seriously. I called him a few times for the sake of not developing carpal tunnel, but there's only so much text messaging one can do before I get bored of them.

Terry - He's new. I don't remember how we met. It had to have been a long time ago online or something. I haven't done the online thing in awhile. All I know is I got a random e-mail one day and we've been "chatting" since then. We still haven't met in person yet, so we'll see. I have a feeling though, that he's socially inept. We'll see. We are supposed to meet this week.

Island Prince "John" - Actually, this will probably end really quickly since he lives in another country and he's just visiting. I don't do long distance, less alone cross country, but for him...well he could get special privileges.

Mr. Henry - Ehhh, I don't know. We have great times together. Really great times. But, well it's been 8 years. The statute of limitations has expired on him. I think we'll be nothing more than good friends and great fwb's.

So that's it in a nutshell. Hmmm, I'll see what the weekend has in store!!!


Shawn Smith said...

I completely understand what you are saying. Myself and a friend talk about this almost on a daily basis.

I try to comfort her by telling her that it is this area and that it doesn't breed well for suitable relationships. But then again, I don't know.

I think it is today's type of people, and that everyone wants instant gratifcation. They are looking for the short term and not long term.

But, some could just be ignorant to the fact of what it takes to be in a "real" relationship.


Hmmm. Stated well. I must admit, although the dating scene has been a little dry and my options aren't what I what I want right now, I enjoy being single. I'm 28, sexy, childless, and am having the time of my life!!!


P.S. None of those guys make my toes curl!!!