Thursday, April 30, 2009

A Big Deal Out Of Nothing...

“All a man has is his word, if he can’t keep his word, he’s not a man” - My Dad


So remember, awhile back I said Brian might be able to pull some strings... he came through!

I actually had nightmares (ok a nightmare) about meeting Brian’s mom a few weeks ago. I can’t remember all of the details, but I do remember how I felt in the dream, and how I felt when I woke up. After racking my brain on what to wear for what could potentially be a Test, or D-day, or the Best/Worst day of my life, I chose a simple, cute, classy sundress for the occasion (I coined it the Stepford Wife Dress), with a light sweater to cover my bare arms.

Really though, I made a big deal out of nothing. We’re friends right? I mean, guys introduce their female friends to their family & friends all the time, right? I don’t know. I guess I have a thing about people meeting my family...maybe it’s just me. Although I was nervous on the inside, I was cool, calm & collected on the outside. I remembered most of the details Brian revealed overtime. After introducing me as his friend, shaking hands with his mother & brother, and making small talk, I could finally breathe again.

Brian & his brother look nothing alike. Brian’s daughter is a cutie and Brian’s Mom reminds me of my Mom. Overall, it was a chill event/occasion/meeting....not bad.


Question: Do you introduce "friends" of the opposite sex to the parents/family? How often? Under what circumstances?


In Other News:

Mr. Henry called me yesterday to tell me he finished his favor. The other day he basically asked me to write a paper for him, and that he would pay me. After telling him off about contacting me only when he wants something, and telling him NO. I think he got it. Granted I have never wrote a paper for him, but he always manages to ask me for “favors”. I also think the lack of sexual attraction to him, makes it easier. Don’t get me wrong, he used to do things for me as well, but more times than not, I received the short end of the stick...not anymore...I really don’t have a desire to talk to him, see him, nothing.

The Old Man text me and called me yesterday too. He was “fishing” for information, and tried to find the perfect moment to bring up the fact that he’s dating someone...good for you! I could care less.

The Tool from the other day keeps texting me and called. He hasn’t gotten the hint yet.

12 comments:

Tiffany Nicole said...

The question of the century...I don't introduce friends of the opposite sex unless I am serious about them or they are like the bomb-deal. Meeting the fam is a BIG deal to me and a major privilege.

Tunde said...

i have no problem bringing female companions around my mom. she knows that if its something serious then i'll introduce her as such. i'm glad things went smoothly meeting the fam though.

hmmm. who is the tool again? james?

oh yeah the old man is funny. he wants you to be jealous.

BlkBond said...

Platonic friends can meet the queen whenever they like. Romantic friends---eh, if chance dictates, then yes. I try not to though, because my parents are old fashioned so anybody they meet at this point leads them to think they need to start planning a wedding soon.

Cheekie said...

"Question: Do you introduce "friends" of the opposite sex to the parents/family? How often? Under what circumstances?"

Sure. If there's no lingering feelings being pushed deep down where it's not seen, there's no pressure for the other party or on me. See, the reason why you were nervous because there are those feelings. There was more pressure for you to get along with Mom...it was more important, so to speak.

LMAO @ Old Man tryin' to make you jealous. Um, SO?!! lol

Mz Mami said...

I agree...NO ONE meets my fam unless it is serious....The last guy who did was my baby's dad and that was when we were actually in a relationship.. My moms way overprotective over me too...and will interrogate the hell out of any male species...translation: the man can only meet the fam when I know he won't run away from me after...

DC DIVA DATING ADVENTURES said...

@ Tiffany - I agree, but my friend Chuck was like..."well you are friends, right"? - Oh well, not that big of a deal I guess... I think I was making it into a big deal, and over analyzing everything!

@ Tunde - You crack me up! As far as I'm concerned they are ALL TOOLS (except Brian, lol)...but yes, I was referring to James (he's not on the roll call yet)

rio tapatio said...

Same thing in my opinion...I'll introduce friends of the opposite sex to fam for the most part...
but if there are feeling floating around...I hold out on the whole meeting the fam aspect for a while....

Old man tryn make you jealous because he still cares a lil...haha...

Dr. J said...

I can't lie, my mother is like a mother to all my friends male/female it's nothing for my platonic friends to call my mother for advice and it be a secret to me. so yeah i'll introduce them. plus, my mother is like my best friend so it's nothing to me.

DC DIVA DATING ADVENTURES said...

@ BlackBond - I guess, that’s one thing...my fam would be trying to plan a wedding...even if I said we are “just friends”, they would be like “but why”...lol


@ Cheekie - The funny thing about it is he thought he was bring it up at the perfect moment. I told him I may be going to the Dominican Republic is Sept. he said “Speaking of the Dominican”...then I was like, Oh, are you going too? He said “No, I’m dating someone from there”... like that’s two different things dude. How do they correlate???


@ Rio - I guess that’s my prob. I like him! (Thanks for stopping by!)


@ Dr. J - I think Brian probably looks at it the same way you do...

Cheekie said...

@Diva - AHAHAHA! Yeah, you could tell he was just WAITING for the perfect opportunity to bring that up. And he still didn't find it, ufortunately. lol

My mom (and my relationship with her) is similar to Dr. J's. All throughout high school, my best friends just fell in love with her and gravitated toward her a lot so that may be why I'm not afraid to introduce my friends (male of female) to her as well.

Now a dude I was dating and she was aware of his label, that's a different story. Lady has quite the death stare.

Anonymous said...

Sounds like this blog should be called Dick-Whipped in the District. It's blatantly obvious that you're still jonesing for the man that left you behind and you're trying to take it out on others. Apparently someone along the way never told you - guys don't care very much if women aren't interested and can drop them in an instant and move onto the next. They'll get what they want from someone else. The faster a man gets you in the sack, the less respect he has for you because the challenge is gone.

must love movies said...

idk
i used to introduce people on gp never really considered a big deal until i got older and they started asking about so and so so now i don't do it anymore. lol

i don't like meeting people's families. that is one of the worst thing for me as far as relationships go when getting to know each other. friends ok but family nawh maybe the kids.