Thursday, August 13, 2009

TMI Brooklyn...You Want To Marry Me???

His name will be Brooklyn. I know I'm breaking my own rule when it comes to the names, but he is the most "Brooklyn" guy I have ever met. He's the epitome of what Brooklyn stands for, in my opinion. I was going to blog about him yesterday and talk about how he was a cool guy, and we had great conversations, however...Brooklyn is something else. After last night’s convo, I don’t know what to think. He’s still nice, but I wonder if he’s putting it all out there too soon? We are on conversation tres.

He made it very very very clear he wants to get married (pause). He’s only 25. Is it just me? Am I the only one who thinks getting married in your 20’s is too young? Hell in some cases early 30’s. Not to put a time limit on it, but I know I won’t be ready for at least another four to five years (still in my twenties for five more months!!!)

What about you?

10 comments:

True2me said...

I totally agree getting married in your 20's MAY be too young for most people

My godsis just got married and they like 26 years old..but they are on the same page and the same type of person..theirs will work

some men honestly want a family and stuff..my ex hubby was like that

Journey to my soul said...

Depends on the guy, True2me is right. Some guys are the relationship type and have no problem settling down. I dont think its a bad thing. As long as he also understands that steps have to be taken to that. And sometimes steps takes years.

However...The topic or even mention of marriage shouldnt be happening this early in your convos.

Tunde said...

i think i'm psychologically ready to get married and have kids (and i wasn't at 25). will i at this point? that would be a no. i especially wouldn't be talking about that with a woman that i've only talked to three times. just creepy.

Mz Mami said...

I'm 23 and sometimes I feel like I just want to get married...

It's totally for the wrong reasons though :P

I already have my daughter so I'm cool for a bit. I don't think I'm a relationship person right now and I'm still working on me. I don't like the idea of a tied down relationship right now. Other people are different. I know people who are married in their 20s and are happy (or seem to be). If you're ready, you're ready, if you're not, you're not. Sometimes age is not a big factor.

Cheekie said...

"However...The topic or even mention of marriage shouldnt be happening this early in your convos."

I was just thinking that, Journey. that type of heavy stuff is pretty early period, no matter the age.

Tunde said...

i think we are looking at this the wrong way. what if that's his game. you know let them think that he's stable and mature. then "bag em and tag em". hmmm

Chaotically Calm said...

At convo numero 3 marriage shouldn't be a topic unless of course he's married (sorry I am having flashbacks). Anywho I don't think there is an ideal age for marriage..ok anything under 24 seems a bit young to me because you are still finding out who you are but some folks don't know their head from a hole in the ground at 35. Age sometimes ain't nothing but a number.

In my life at this time marriage doesn't seem like the right step...who are the prospects anyway...but what I'm saying is that once I finally nail down this whole who is Faith thing I will be right for committment and wifely duties (whatever that really means).

DC DIVA DATING ADVENTURES said...

@ Tunde - "let them think that he's stable and mature. then "bag em and tag em". hmmm"

He just doesn't know, I decided in the first 4 minutes whether or not I was gonna have sex with him...talking about marriage in convo #3 decreases his chances. I don't want a stalker-dude, or someone fallin hard for me.

Must Love Movies said...

hmm yea maybe lookin at it the wrong way. it could be game. i think it is good to know a guy wants to get married. i have a friend that def. does not want to get married. i wouldn't waste my time dating him. that's like finding out a dude is married you know how to walk. as long as it's not game.

Anonymous said...

Its not too soon in the conversation if getting married is his main goal. That way up front, you know and he knows what each of you want. He knows that you aren't looking for that and not to get all "caught up" and you know that he is looking pretty hard to be married and you know he is not the one to be hanging out with.

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